I want 3 things from you now very much. Before taking up photography, I would like to know these three things.
There are things that every man will think about and wish for always, well, or from time to time. Despite all beliefs and promises, it is impossible to force a man to give up things that he himself is not able to refuse, with all his desire.
The attention of other women to their beloved.
Men always crave to be desired by women and do their best to contribute to this by attracting attention, flirting. Women also have this feature, even several times more than men, but unlike men, women try to attract attention in order to be able to choose one worthy option from the proposed options, and men in this regard will be satisfied with everything at once or in turn.
One more woman than we already have.
Even if a man has chosen you as a life partner and promised to be unquestioningly faithful to you, this does not negate the law of nature. That's the way the male gene works.
The female gene is focused on finding a worthy partner who can ensure the survival and preservation of offspring. The female gene is about quality, while the male gene is about quantity. Men are programmed to spread their gene to as many women as possible.
We may not like it, we may not agree with it, but the fact of genetic predisposition is undeniable among all living beings. Claiming that it doesn't specifically affect you or your loved one can be seen as self-deception.
If you do a little research, just by talking to men you know, you will find out that if a man has the opportunity to own several women, then he will certainly try to use this chance. The only thing that hinders their aspiration is the lack of opportunities, for example: there is not enough money to be able to provide women and the consent of women themselves.
If the aspirations coincide with the possibilities, then not a single man will deny himself such pleasure. In the modern world, men try to comply with the imposed norms of behavior and suppress their desires, but I assure you that these desires do not disappear anywhere. Therefore, do not rush to blame men for this, they are partly hostages of their desires.
Sex with several women at the same time.
Sometimes our actions cannot be explained in any other way, except as a manifestation of the instincts inherent in each of us. Several women in bed for any man is an unquenchable dream that realizes him as a man.
As mentioned above, men are set to own as many women as possible, and sex with at least two women implements all of the above points at the same time. Therefore, such a dream is an integral part of the men themselves. Every man burns with the desire to realize this dream.
You already feel that the right moment has come to change your life. But where to start? The first three steps in an interview with HR-tv.ru were suggested by Ekaterina Chizhevskaya, a specialist in search and selection of personnel.
Each of us periodically thinks about the changes that we would like to bring into our lives. About once a week, right? Someone "from Monday" goes on a diet, someone starts running in the morning or doing exercises, someone starts looking for a job or training.
One way or another, we all literally crave these changes, without which, as it seems to us, life is not sweet. At the same time, if everything is more or less clear with the desire for something specific, then it is not at all clear how to approach if a person dreams of some positive changes, but has absolutely no idea what they should be.
Well, for example, someone wanted to find a new job. The desire is obviously quite specific. Therefore, specific actions can be selected for its implementation. At a minimum, you can simply write a resume, post it in open sources and wait for calls with offers.
Or you can approach the issue more seriously and analyze your experience and skills, compare this knowledge with the requirements for the position that you would like to take, gain the missing knowledge, thereby increasing your value as a professional.
In general, this approach is applicable to any specific wish. You just need to identify it, analyze it and start acting. But not everything is so simple, you say, and you will be right. Even if we achieve some external changes, be it a new job or a new hobby, our joy and satisfaction often disappear after a month or so.
And here the very expectations of something indefinite appear, which should certainly make us happy and make life better. We are looking again, sometimes we even try and do not understand why happiness does not come. I really love one quote that you must have seen on social networks. “People think that they will be happy if they move to another place, and then it turns out: wherever you go, you take yourself with you.”
It seems to me that it explains why these changes do not happen to us in any way. Just think: we take ourselves with us. We don't change ourselves, that's the point!
In fact, we have been “learning” to react and act according to the same pattern for many years. Many of us are really used to complaining, to notice negative moments instead of positive ones, to condemn, to look for the guilty ones.
All these emotions and reactions, of course, affect our actions. But it is very important to remember that everything is interconnected here. Our thoughts influence our actions and our actions influence our thoughts. The chain reaction works always and everywhere. We failed, got frustrated, and became less productive when we were in a bad mood, so there is a great chance of failing again.
On the other hand, even if everything is not bad, and we are generally satisfied with what is happening, changes are needed. Just to not stand still. And for this it is necessary to act. Change your mindset first. Because without internal changes it is difficult to achieve external changes. The words of Albert Einstein fit perfectly here: “The biggest stupidity is to do the same thing and hope for a different result.”
Therefore, I share a plan of action that will certainly help get off the ground and bring any changes in your life.
The first and most difficult thing to do is to get rid of the trash. And both in the head and around you. In order for something new to enter our lives, it is necessary to make space for it. Think about what old resentments or negative thoughts prevent you from breathing deeply.
What unresolved problems weigh down your every day. The moment has come to resolve issues that have long been postponed for later, and leave old grievances in the past. For this, sometimes a simple strong-willed decision is enough.
But, if this is difficult, various practices can help, for example, forgiveness, which are stored in a wide variety on the Internet. Pick the one that's right for you. There is no universal recipe here, you need to try, look at the result and your feelings.
Space also needs to be freed up around you. Tidy up your desktop, computer, home. Sort papers and get rid of unnecessary things. There is a wonderful exercise. You need to imagine that tomorrow you are moving to live in another city, and think about what things you will definitely take with you and what not.
You can safely get rid of what you will not take with you to your new home. A less radical way - things that you have not used for more than a year are unlikely to ever come in handy, so it makes no sense to store them either.
And you can start in any order. A well-known fact: general house cleaning is a great help to clean up your own head.
After the space is cleared, it, and you along with it, are truly ready for new emotions and achievements.
With a fresh head and with ease in the soul, any undertakings are given much easier, ideas are generated with a vengeance, it remains only to catch this state of inspiration and readiness to work and create.
The natural third stage is action. Just start, and then you will already enter the rhythm, and it will be much easier to move. If you suddenly don’t like it and want to give up, go back to the first step, remember that acquired state of lightness and try something else.
To be honest, only a few clearly know what they want and tirelessly follow the chosen route. Most lose interest fairly quickly. Therefore, you can and should try different things. Life is motion.
And it is always important to remember that there is no magic pill, magic technique, or magic persuasion. Any qualitative change, especially if we are talking about internal changes, and not just external ones, is achieved through hard work and regular practice.
Concentrate on good thoughts, positive emotions and actions that give pleasure. Dare! And never stop there.
There are lessons that we learn the hard way. Trial and error, though difficult, remains the most persuasive teacher any of us have ever had. We often learn more from our failures than from our successes. But as Newton said, sometimes we only move forward by climbing on the shoulders of giants.
More than anything, I would like to know some things sooner. There are so many lessons that could have been to my advantage if I had learned them at the very beginning of my journey into the unknown world of photography.
Therefore, out of solidarity, I will share three things that I would like to know from someone when I first started photography. There may have been those who tried, but for some reason I couldn't figure it out. Hopefully the knowledge gained from the tough fights will help you move forward and give you the foundation you need to take better photos. Here they are in no particular order.
The type of camera I need
This quirky subject has plagued the lives of many beginners and those looking to take their photography to the next level. I started my journey shooting with a 35mm Nikon N65 with an 18-55mm lens that I bought when I was 18 years old. It was my first real camera. As a teenager, I saved up money and paid $265 for it, but I still felt that in order to take better photos, you need a better camera. It was 15 years ago.
Even then, I was convinced that I needed a "professional camera" to become a professional photographer. If you had asked me then what a “professional camera” is, I would not have known what to answer.
I wish someone would tell me at that moment that there is no better camera. The only thing that really matters is understanding how to use the camera you have to its full potential (and yours). True, times have changed, and technology has developed rapidly. Some people earn their living only with the help of a camera in a smartphone.
But you have to remember one thing: most cameras are only capable of producing amazing quality images when combined with user experience. Whatever camera you have, this is enough. Let your skills mature and you'll know when it's time to upgrade your equipment.
What is post-processing and what it is not
Before you flip the page in horror at the slightest mention of post-processing, let me assure you that these are not intimidating comments about what can and cannot be considered "photoshop". On the contrary, we will talk about some of the misconceptions that I had when I first started processing my images.
I was convinced that "everything should be done in the cell". This all-encompassing thinking meant that once a photograph was taken, there was nothing to do but show it to the world. This is not always true.
I would like someone to tell me that all photographs, even analog (film), virtually always benefit from some follow-up work on them. The quote that changed my thinking about post-processing came from none other than Ansel Adams himself: “The negative is the equivalent of a composer's musical score, and the print is the performance.”
Ansel emphasized that, yes, you should always look for the best exposure in the camera to get the most complete picture of the scene, and show the final photo combined with your creativity. Don't avoid post-processing, but rather think of it as a logical second step towards achieving your rendering, no matter what it may be.
Perfection unattainable
This is true. No photograph is perfect, and few photographs have been elevated to the level of works of art, whatever that means. It was an illusion that burdened me in those days when I learned to photograph. I had a lot of misunderstandings about how this or that actually happened in the process of creating images, both from a technical and creative side.
The only thing I knew for sure was that my pictures were nothing like the beautiful pictures I saw on the Internet and in photo magazines. I began to despair, feeling that I was doing something completely wrong.
I would like to hear from someone that even if you work in the photography industry for the rest of your life, you will never get the perfect shot. As you hone your technique and get more powerful gear, your photos will definitely get stronger. But don't think that the day will come and you will say, “Ah, now I am perfect. From now on, all my photos will be flawless.” This day will never come.
The craft of photography is a practice in personal evolution. This is a path of constant learning. So take a breath, relax and enjoy this exciting journey for what it is.
My beloved wife
Recently, I began to notice that you have become dissatisfied with yourself and your body. I really don't know why, because I think you're perfect! As your husband, I want to tell you about your body:
1. You are stunningly beautiful
Here I don’t want to give hints, I’ll say it straight - I find you incredibly beautiful and I hope that you will not forget about it. I am very attracted to you and I want to always be with you! Yes, I believe that there is chemistry between us!
Granted, I don't always say what I think (I'm a man!!), but I keep saying to myself how amazing you look and how lucky I am to be your husband. Sometimes you notice that I look at you appraisingly and you probably think that I am trying on unrealistic standards for you. You have no idea how far from the truth you are, The truth is I just can't get enough of you! You look so good!
2. I love you just the way you are.
I appreciate that you take care of yourself and try to look your best. I know this is one of your ways to show me your love and it really turns me on. I love our date nights and I am very happy and proud to have you by my side.
But I would like you to know something important - I love you just the way you are! Today, no one is surprised that women do not hide their bodies and put everything on display. All of these promotional shots are altered to such an extent that an unrealistic beauty is created. And we see it everywhere: in magazines, on billboards, on television, on the Internet, etc.
You are constantly under pressure and feel the need to look special and meet the imposed standards. I see it. You look at yourself in the mirror and worry about extra grams or wrinkles. I will not be able to completely solve this problem, but at least I will try to relieve you of your worries - I love you the way you are!
I am very lucky that you chose me and now we share everything with you together. You are beautiful not only externally, your inner world is also beautiful! My love does not depend on how you look and I want to grow old only with you, let you have wrinkles and stuff!
3. Your smile lights up my world
We've been married for years, but I still enjoy holding your hand and enjoying our closeness. I want to remind you that before I could enjoy all of you, first I saw your smile. It was the smile that attracted me then. Of course, my attraction grew stronger each time, but it all started with your beautiful smile and shining eyes.
Your smile is just contagious! It illuminates the whole space around and, of course, my life. If I'm having a bad day, then nothing can cheer me up better than your smile or your laughter. Your optimism and cheerful disposition are the most energizing and so attractive! You don't have to wear the hottest clothes to get my attention. All you have to do is just smile!
My beloved wife, I wrote all of this so that, having a variety of reasons to worry, your body is not one of these reasons. Although I'm not good enough at expressing my thoughts in words (but I will try!), you are beautiful! Thank you for being my everything! And remember, I LOVE YOU!
Today we will talk about a topic that is fundamental in the life of a woman - a relationship with a man. While we are all unique and each of us has different balances of interests, there are basic expectations that men have and basic expectations that women have in relationships. These are not whims and not fantasies, this is a vital necessity - to get certain components.
So, the first female quality is self-sufficiency.
What it is? This is the ability to rejoice, regardless of the circumstances. Those. in essence, it is a resource state. If a woman feels good, if she is excited, if she chirps like a bird, if she enjoys what she does or does not do, she generates energy. Even in ancient Chinese sources, wisdom was written that a woman is a source of energy.
Therefore, a man, coming home from work, falls to her to feed. And if a woman is in a bad mood, he has nothing to get, so that later he can do his own thing. Therefore, first of all, a woman should do what she likes. If she wants to embroider, let her embroider. If she wants to sing, let her sing. And if she doesn’t want to, let her not sing and embroider, let her admire herself in the mirror, if her mood rises from this. If a woman is satisfied with life, then a man will receive next to her the food that will allow him to win the war, create his own income and solve all other men's problems.
Without a state of satisfaction with ourselves, we women lose our attraction to men. Biologically, men and women are arranged in such a way that one of them is a donor, and the other is a consumer. And the donor is a woman. She does not need to receive energy from a man, she receives energy from nature. No matter how many children a woman has, she is able to love them all. No matter how many hobbies a woman has, she can be fond of all of them.
Because an endless source of development is hidden in it, it is intended by nature to generate new life. It is very important that you understand this simple thing: the basic need of a man is to receive energy from a woman. We, the women of our time, took over from our mothers, who, unfortunately, were forced to survive. Not even with mothers, with grandmothers. Therefore, we want to combine all the roles at once (or we don’t want to, but we have to), forgetting about our most important role - the role of an energy source.
If you are not happy, if you are not happy with what you are doing, if it is unpleasant for you to be yourself, then it doesn’t matter what virtues you have, what a wonderful housewife or mother you are, how much money you earn ... If you are not interested in yourself How can you be interesting to a man? You have to admire yourself, then others will admire you. So, the first point is your own happiness, your personal, independent of a man, ability to enjoy life.
The second point is your generosity, your ability to believe in a man, despite the fact that at the moment he is showing weakness.
Mastroianni, the famous Italian actor, said that every man in every woman, deep down, hopes to meet a mother. If I had heard such words 25 years ago, I would have been terribly indignant. I would say: "Why do I need a man who needs to be loved like a child?" But when I have lived my life, I know that we simply love our children incorrectly. The word "mother" in our Russian mentality has a very different meaning than in Italian.
